Some people believe Parental Alienation Syndrome is used as an instrument by abusive fathers to control the courts. These people are blind to the reality of Parental Alienation Syndrome – it is gender neutral. Most fathers are good loving care providers and the child responds to this by enjoying a secure relationship with its father. A child that lives with a Parental Alienator can go from having a well-built bond with its father one day, to refusing to speak to him the next. This abrupt switch is the ‘syndrome’. The child aligns itself with the custodial parent and disrespects, ignores or cuts off the targeted parent completely.